Lets face it, life doesn’t always turn out as we plan, our bodies are not as good as we want them to be, our relationships aren’t perfect and our pasts are not as beautiful as we would like everyone to believe. As I have grown older and wiser I have discovered that for me to be at peace with both men and God I have to be at peace with myself. I have to love, appreciate and embrace me. Until you make peace with who you are, you will never be content with what you have. The peacemaking process must start from within.
How Do You Make Peace With Yourself?
1. Take Responsibility of your actions
Taking responsibility for your actions is one of the hardest things to do. By nature we love to blame. We blame the government, the weather, global warming, parents, children, spouses, bosses and even pets. Its always somebody else fault and not ours. Until you give yourself a good look and admit that your choices have not been the best, there times you have been a jerk, your attitude stinks and you have refused to grow up you will never know peace. Why should you try to know others if you don’t know yourself? Self evaluation is painful but worth it, give it a try and you will be surprised
2. Forgive yourself
We have all made terrible choices at some point in life. There are times we have failed ourselves miserably, not lived up to our standards, hurt people and lost the way. Sometimes we judge ourselves too harshly and are never able to get past our mistakes. What is done is done and there is nothing we can do about it and as much as you want to you cannot right all your past wrongs. If God has forgiven us who are we to judge ourselves. Forgive yourself and let go, your shoulders are too small to bear that burden. What good are you doing yourself by battering yourself everyday for the past mistakes. For how long are you going to hang on that cross?
3. Let your Past be the past
Lets face it, everyone has a past. The greatest favor you can do yourself is to get the skeletons off your closet. You can either cling to your past and make your present and future miserable or you can let go and face the future with more hope. Let your past be past because no matter what you do you will never change it. Do yourself a favor by getting over your past so that you can experience inner peace
4. Don’t Allow Regrets Ruin your Life
Am yet to meet a person without any regrets and whoever says that he/she does not have any regrets is a fat liar. I have lost chances in the past, squandered opportunities, mismanaged my time but thank God he has given me other chances. Am neither a saint nor an angel but I refuse to mourn lost opportunities and missed chances. Am where I am by divine design and will handle everyday as it comes striving not to look behind at what I have lost.
5. Accept and Embrace yourself
Change what you can about yourself and leave the rest to your maker. I don’t have a Heidi Klum body, Angelina Jolie’s face, Donald Trumps’s money and am no heir to any throne but its okay. I love myself just the way I am and have learnt to be my own BFF. I may not be where I want to be but am sure having fun on my way there. Sweetheart, when you wake up every morning thank your maker that you are not dead. Accept and love yourself, there is never going to be another you.